NH Voices Against Violence teens

Info for teens.

Teens

Is it Abuse?

If the person you are with acts controlling, aggressive or violent, or tries to get you to things you don't want to do, its abuse. Dating violence can include physical abuse, but it doesn't have to. Many relationships that are abusive include: Verbal, Emotional, Physical, and/or Sexual Abuse.

Ask Yourself:

Does My Boyfriend or Girlfriend....

• Call or page all the time to find out where I am, who I am with or what I am doing?
• Tell me what to wear?
• Have to be with me all the time?
• Call me names? Put me down?
• Insult or criticize me constantly?
• Act jealous or possessive?
• Give me orders? Tell me what to do all the time?
• Make all the decisions?
• Threaten to hurt me or someone in my family if I don't do what they want?
• Threaten to hurt themselves if I don't do what they want?
• Get angry quickly or fight a lot?
• Blame me when something goes wrong?
• Follow and/or track me?
• Check up on me all the time?
• Refuse to allow me normal contact with friends and/or family
• Shove, push, punch, slap, pinch, kick or hit me?
• Touch or kiss me when I don't want to?
• Force me to have sex? Not let me use birth control?
• Pressure me to use alcohol or drugs with them?
• Refuse to accept that the relationship isn't working or is over?

 
What you can do about it:

 If you are in an abusive relationship, it's probably going to get worse rather than get any better. You deserve to be in a healthy, happy relationship that meets your needs. It's not always easy to get out of an abusive relationship, but the following suggestions may help....

 

• Call 911 if you are in immediate danger.
• Trust your instincts - you are the best judge of your own safety
• Get help from Voices Against Violence - we can help you make a safety plan, give you information about NH laws, make referrals to other services, and support you when you just need someone to listen
• Tell someone you trust - a close friend, a family member. They may be able to support you and watch out for you.
• Develop a safety plan - what are you going to do when you see the abuser at school, at work, or in social situations?
• Keep a log of the abuse - when the abuser contacts you or follows you, what s/he says or does