NH Voices Against Violence domestic violence

Info on domestic violence.

Domestic Violence

 

Does your girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife, mom, dad or anyone:

• o Make fun of you, put you down, or embarrass you in front of other people?
• o Act extremely jealous of others who pay attention to you use jealousy to justify his/her actions?
• o Have a history of bad relationships or violence?
• o Always blame his/her problems on other people, or blame you for "making" him/her treat you badly?
• o Seem like two different people, constantly switching between two personalities?
• o Control your friends and/or your behavior emotionally or sexually?
• o Push, slap, bite, kick, or choke you?
• o Try to get you drunk, high or messed up or try to get you alone when you don't want to be?
• o Try to control you - by being bossy, not taking your opinion seriously?
• o Make all of the decisions about who you see, what you wear, what you do, etc.?
• o Threaten to kill you or commit suicide?
• o Talk negatively about people in sexual ways or talk about sex like it's a game or a contest?
• o Stop you from seeing or talking to friends, family or limits your outside involbement?

 

You might have answered "yes" to some of these questions, but still think "it's not that bad." But feeling scared, humiliated, pressured or controlled is not the way you should feel in a relationship. You should feel loved, respected, and free to be yourself. And, you can't make people in your life change their behavior or continue to make excuses for their behavior...they are the ones who have to change their attitude and accept responsibility for abusing you.